Sunday, July 15, 2012

Rules for a Happy Married Life

After Marriage

1. Never both be angry at the same time
2. Never yell at each other unless the house in on fire
3. If one of you has to win an argument, let it be your mate
4. If you have to criticize do it lovingly
5. Never bring up mistakes of the past
6. Neglect the whole world rather than each other
7. Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled
8. At least once every day try to say one kind of complimentary thing to your life’s partner
9. When you have done something wrong, be ready to admit it and ask for forgiveness
10. It takes two to make a quarrel and the one in the wrong is the one who does the most talking


6 Cs of happy marriages 

Years of experience and research has taught us that marriage, much like life, is not that simple. It involves two people, their personalities, their desires, their emotions, and their psychology. Marriage, we learned is an institution with unlimited variables that cannot simply be formulated into a software application. A successful marriage requires a mix of Compatibility, Chemistry, Commitment, Community, Communication and Compassion.

Compatibility - A set of interests and values that establishes a common ground between two people

Chemistry - Indefinable attributes that make two people 'click' with each other

Commitment - An explicit and implicit understanding that both partners are dedicated to making the relationship work

Community - A network of family and friends to support and nurture the relationship

Communication - An effort to express feelings and share experiences with each other

Compassion - A human quality that becomes all the more important for developing a successful relationship

Our findings indicate that different people give different weightage to the above factors in their description of an ideal life partner and consequently they are looking for different things in an ideal match making solution.

So, while somebody thinks - 'The most important thing to me is to be able to set filters so that I only meet people that I am interested in. Why should I have to deal with somebody I am clear I do not wish to marry', others are of the opinion that - 'I am simply exploring whether I am ready to get married. I think I am but I will only truly know when I meet the 'right' person. So, for me I want a service where I can meet a large number of diverse people'.

A person in Mumbai 'wants to meet someone who has a lot in common with them' while somebody in Chennai 'would rather marry somebody who is exactly the opposite'. A girl in New York told us that 'two diverse people form a greater whole' while a gentleman in London indicated that 'common interests are the key to compatibility'.

We are constantly applying new learning’s in this area to enable our members in taking the first step towards a successful marriage.

Arya Vysyas History

Our ancestral history shows our footprints extended up to Africa and deep into Persian Gulf. Zimbabwe an African country has a small province Ehlanzeni District Municipality with a sea port called as Komati Port. Historians conclude this got its name because of the early habitants and migration from India. The earliest record of human occupation is in the form of San rock paintings. They got the Red ochre used for their paintings at Dumaneni and probably used this site as long ago as 30'000 to 45'000 years ago.

Some have speculated that some stone terraced walls, religious icons and grave sites found in the area have similarities with Hindu designs. Also, the name of the broader area, Komati, is similar to Indian caste name of the Setty or Komati, which is the trading (Vysya) caste (Arya Vysya) of the of Indian Hindu caste system. If this is true, it means that Indian travelers must have visited the area many centuries ago.

Note that northern Indians traded as widely as with Iran and China as long ago as 200BC. Around 1000BC even the Chinese traded along the East African coast. It is thus quite possible that there were indeed Indian settlers in this area.

 Present situation:

1) Vysya Dharma Prakasika, 1890 says it clearly that Arya Vysyas are strict vegetarian and who ever doesn't follow vegetarianism should be excommunicated from the caste. Even now Arya Vysyas are the single most caste denomination that is strictly vegetarian.

2) Arya Vysyas are Komatis but not all Komatis are Arya Vysyas. Arya Vysyas are only those who belong to the 102 gotras and who have Aryan origin. This is what has caused us to name ourselves as Arya Vysyas in the early 1900 and keep ourselves apart from the rest of the Komatis (Kalinga, Beri etc).

3)We never stepped on Africa and if you find such literature anywhere online or in books, please take it from your fellow AryaVysya that it is concocted and corrupted. We do not have anything to do with Komatis or the word Komati in Africa. There have been several concocted and false theories to put us on the Africa map so that there could be some confusion as to where our origin is from.

4) Shetty and shettelu belong to Karnataka and they are low castes in Karnataka and they are not Arya Vysyas or Komatis. Likewise Chetty and Chettiar are not Arya Vysyas. Only "Settis or Settys" are true Arya Vysyas. Please be careful with Shetty and Setti.  Even some of the kapu community members use the Setti title.

5) Arya Vysyas are not Dravidian. Please note that "Komatis or Arya Vysyas as renamed later are proud Dravidians with comparatively dark complexion who take great pride in their Telugu language and speak it in other states as well.". Please visit histories of other castes. Other castes have always tried to portray themselves as Aryans because Dravidians are considered Rakshashas. We are higher caste and we are Aryan. Please take out the word Dravidian from our history.

6)  Vysyas follow the Vasavi Puranas and employ Brahmins with no distinctions for their rituals. Sri Vasavi Kanyaka Parameswari Devi is the Goddess or Kula Devata of Arya Vysyas.

A large number of Komatis are said to have originally lived and still live in large numbers on the banks of the Gomati River. So the people who lived on the banks are called as Gomati, corrupted in Telugu as Komati, when these trading people moved south, their Dravidian brothers intermarried with their woman and dravidianised them and even to this day Sanskrit languages are not spoken by them and they speak the adopted language of their neighbors. The Dravidians could not speak Sanskrit and hence addressed them as Komati in a corrupted way."
"They are also called as Guptas, Chettiar, Setty and Chetty. "****

Please delete it, it has been written by a hacker and a vandalizer. We are Aryan in origin. Please visit articles on Castes like Kapu, Kamma, Reddy, Brahmin etc. They have written there history with Aryan origin in mind. We have not taken care of our article and that's why people have written ill about us.

7) In the "Vasavi History" section please edit
***"They approached their Kula guru (family Teacher) Bhaskara Acharya also a Komati who was well versed in shastras and by virtue of his profession was treated as a Komati Brahman. He advised them to perform Puthra Kamesti Yaga, which Dasharatha had observed."***
Bhaskaracharya was a Brahmin and he was our guru. He was not a Komati. It is written clearly in our Vysya Dharma Prakasika, 1890. People from a particular caste have tried to shun their guru from our caste and hence have hacked our history and called Bhaskara as Komati but he was a Brahmin.

According to Wikipedia

Arya Vysya is a trading community of the South Indian Hindu Caste System. Arya Vysyas are called Setti, Shetty, Shettulu, Komati or Komatlu cumulatively. Setty is also used as an honorific title by traders of several other castes. Hence any one with a suffix surname of Setty doesn’t mean they belong to Komati caste. During the early 19th century Komatis registered themselves as Arya Vysyas with help from madras presidency which distinguished them from the other castes for reasons of identity and matrimonial clarity. This should not be confused as a racial term but only bestowing honor on account of wealth and social mobility. Komatis or Arya Vysyas as renamed later are proud Dravidians with comparatively dark complexion who take great pride in their Telugu language and speak it in other states as well. Arya Vysyas are located in Andhra Pradesh, Maharashtra, Karnataka, Tamil Nadu and Orissa. The people of this caste were mainly into business and trade and now have diversified doing many occupations. The Komatis have established monopolies in trading activities in south India, by virtue of their birth, thus becoming south India’s corporate and business class.

Many Arya Vysyas are vegetarians. Vysyas follow the Vasavi Puranas and employ Brahmins with no distinctions for their rituals. Sri Vasavi Kanyaka Parameswari Devi is the Goddess or Kula Devata of Arya Vysyas.

A large number of Komatis are said to have originally lived and still live in large numbers on the banks of the Gomati River. So the people who lived on the banks are called as Gomati, corrupted in Telugu as Komati, when these trading people moved south, their Dravidian brothers intermarried with their woman and dravidianised them and even to this day Sanskrit languages are not spoken by them and they speak the adopted language of their neighbors. The Dravidians could not speak Sanskrit and hence addressed them as Komati in a corrupted way.

Between 1921 & 1931, the Viceroy of Madras Presidency had implemented a commission which helped the people in their community to register their community with changes in the name if any. The Telugu linguistic Vysya Association (1905) registered their community as Arya Vysyas.

Caste wise Arya Vysya Population in India is 22,952,000

Catagories in Komati Kula

Why is our community  called  Komati?
The name komati has been derived in many ways.The Komatis are said to have originally lived and still live in large numbers on the banks of Godavari river. One of the local names there of is Gomati or Gomti and the sanskrit name is Gomati for river Godavari .So people lived in the banks are called as gomati, would in Telgu,  Corrupted as Komati  . others again ,say that it is from go-mati,meaning cow-minded. Also as per our epics Vysyas are supposed to worship and take care of cows also as one of their main profession, hence the relevance.
Reference :- ' Castes and Tribes of southern India', Vol 3 K, 1909-Courtsey Muthunarayan.Trichy
In all there are about 80 groups of Vysyas in Komati Kula or Komati Group in India. They are

1. Aryavysya's
2. Agarwal
3. Oswal
4. Khandewal
5. Pareliwal
6. Purawal
7. Bhatia
8. Maheshwar
9. Agrahari
10. Doosar
11. Umar
12. Rastogi
13. Kesandan
14. Lohia
15. Sonia
16. Suraseni
17. Baraseni
18. Bharanwal
19. Kesarwani
20. Ayodhya Bhansi
21. Jaiswar
22. Mahobia
23. Mourya
24. Baasi Baniya
25. Kota Bania
26. Rounias
27. Janarya
28. Mathur Vyshya
29. Ayodhyawasi Vyshya
30. Lohana
31. Revari Baniya
32. Kama
33. Vijayavargi
34. Srimali
35. Baderwal
36. Dwadasha Shreni
37. Oswal Vyshya's
38. Kobe
39. Desawal
40. Gurjar
41. Laad
42. Souratia
43. Harisora
44. Ukkar
45. Vayaad
46. Baniya
47. Suvarnavanik
48. Patotia
49. Kadeslia
50. Gandhavanik
51. Kaarusha
52. Shah
53. Sunar Baniya
54. Natakota
55. Gorara
56. Narasimha Pura Mahajanulu
57. Gayoya
58. Kumwar Vyshya's
59. Purawaal
60. Mode
61. Garal
62. Badiyala
63. Kafal
64. Putili Baniya
65. Vanik
66. Naagar(Dasa-Bis)
67. Diswala
68. Jarola
69. Soratia
70. Khadaitha
71. Harsara
72. Kapola
73. Urlaava
74. Patolia
75. Vayodha
76. Gavaaru
77. Kalinga Komati
78. Beri Komati
79. Balie Komati
80. Naagar Komati
In south India Vysyas are called Arya Vysyas. They are also called as Guptas, Chettiar, Setty and Chetty. This Arya Vysyas are 102 Gotras Vysyas who jumped into the fire-pit along with Vasavi Kanyaka Parameshwari Devi.

Most Arya Vysya's of Andhra Pradesh are vegetarians. Orthodox Vysyas follow the rituals as prescribed in Vasavi puranas as Brahmins. Sri Vasavi Kanyaka Parameswari Devi is the Goddess or Kula Devatha of Arya Vysya's.


Vysyas keep off furious, proud, and quarrel. They mostly concentrate on welfare programs for the society with their soul. With their Divinity they also proved and positioned as first in the world. Vysyas placed in first by building the Temples, doing HOMAAS AND YAGAAS.


Even though Vysyas are only permitted to trading activities, but they are encouraging education by developing more educational institutes for the society. This proves their love and effection towards education. King Sri Harsha was ruler of vysyas had built Nalanda University and Library, which were most popular in his kingdom.


Patriotic people had used Peace and Patience as their weapons to get independence for the Indians. Vysyas are pride to say that Father of Nation Mahatma Gandhi was also belongs to Vysya who released Indians from Britishers, Amarajeevi. Sri.Potti. SriRamulu who struggled a lot for the formation of AP is also belonged to Vysyas. Recently General Mayer Kariyappa who fought against Pakistan also belonged to Vysya. Similarly many vysyas are proved themselves by serving to the Society which was marked by outstanding performance, demonstrated effective leadership, prolonged and committed service, devotion, enthusiasm and faithfulness.


Vysyas got great history because they pursued loyality, trust, devotion, education, morale and customs-values.
thanks to

ARYA VYSYA Gothras list

Agnipravesha Nayakki





GothrasThere are 714 gotras before agnipravesham of vasavi matha now there are 102 gotras among Arya Vysyas. They followed 102 Rishis for conducting their rituals. Surname gotras and Rishis for identification and classification for all the Arya Vysyas are one and the same. The gotras is equivalent of the Sanskrit names of Rishis

 Groups of Arya Vysyas became followers of particular Rishi for conducting their rituals and they claimed to be the followers of that particular Rishi. Thus they are identified by the Rishi name. And for still feature identification they use a pre-fix surname generally indicating the area from which they migrated or the profession to which they belong and other such identification


"you need to know More Details about Gothras click Gothras Numbers"

1. AGASTHYASA - anubha Gula, anubala, anubala Gula


2. ATHREYASA ARASAKULA- ARISISHTAKULA-ELISISHTAKULA- ARISETLAKULA-HARISISHTAKULA


3. ACHAYANASA AKRAMULAKULA- AKYAMULAKULA- AMALAKULA- ARKYAMULA


4. UGRASENASA KUMIRISISHTA- KUMARSISHTA- KOMARSISHTAKULA


5. UDHGRUSHTASA KANYAKULA- KANUKULA- KRANUKULA- KRANU


6. UTHAMOJASA UTHAKALAKULA-UTHAKULA- UTHASISHTAKULA- UHTAMAKULA


7. RUSHYASHRUNGASA ANANTHAKULA


8. AUSHITHYASA YANASAKULA- YAANASAKAKULA- YAANASABIKULA


9. GANVSA GARNAKULA


10. GANDHARPASA SARAKULA- SEKOTLAKULA- SEGOLLA- SAMANAKULA- SHRESHTA KUNDALA KULA


11. KABILASA MANDU- MANDHAKULA- HASTHAKULA- MANDAKULA


12. KABEEDHASA VENKALAKULA


13. KASYABASA GANAMUKU KULA


14. GUTHSASA ISHVAKU KULA


15. KOUNDINYASA KANALOLA- KANASRILA- KANASRILA KULA


16. GOUNDHEYASA KAMASISHTA


17. KOUSIKASA KARAKA PALA


18. KRUSHNASA DHANAKULA- THANANAKULA- THENUKULA


19. GARKYASA PRAHEENUKULA- PRAHEENIKULA- PAIPIKULA


20. GRUTHSAN MATHASA ESABAKULA- ESUBAKULA- ESHUBAKULA- SANNAKULA- JANAKULA- JYANUKULA


21. GOPAKASA INJTHAPAKULA- GOPAKULA- KONDAKULA- KONDAKAKULA


22. GOUTHAMASA GANTHISEELA- GANTHASEELAKULA- GANTHASEELA- GRANTHISEELA


23. CHAKRAPANISA CHAKRAMULAKULA- CHAKRAMULASAKULA


24. CHAMARSHANASA BETHASHRESHTA- BETHAKISHTA- PATHASISHTAKULA- PATHTHASISHTAKULA


25. JADABARATHASA KUNDAKULA- DHURASISHTA- DHURASISHTAKULA


26. JADHUKARNASA CHANDRAKULA- CHANDRAMOOLA- CHANDRAMASISHTA


27. JAMBASOOTHANASA THRIMULA- THRIMULAKULA


28. JARATHKARASA SANTHAKULA- JANAKULA- JYANUKULA


29. JABAALISA SIRISISHTAKULA- SIRASISHTAKULA


30. PAPREYASA SANASISHTA- SANASISHTAKULA- SINISHETLA


31. JEEVANDHISA BURHTILASISHAKULA- BRUMASISHTAKULA- LRUTHTHIKULA


32. THARANISA THRIVIKRAMA- SISHTASA- THRIVIKRAMASISHTAKULA


33. THITHIRISA PAMTHAKULA- PRAHTAMAKULA- PRAVATHAKULA


34. THRIJADASA UPARAKULA- USIRAKULA


35. THAITHREYASA SITHURUBELLU- SITHRUBELLU- SITHRUBA- SITHRUBAKULA


36. THALPYASA PADINAKULA- PLAKAKULA- PALAKALAKULA- PADANASISHTAKULA


37. DHURVASASA THITHISA- THITHINAKULA- THENTHSULA- THENTHASALA- THETHANAKULA


38. DHEVARATHASA HAARAASIKULA


39. DHEVA KALKYASA USIRAKULA- DHESISHTAKULA


40. NARADHASA PALAKAKULA- PALAKULA


41. NETHRA PAHTASA SANDHOKU- SANDHOKULAKULA


42. PARAS PARAAYANYASA DHUVVISISHTAKULA- POULATHATHSYA KULA- SRIBHUMSIKULA


43. PALLAVASA KANAPAKULA- KANTAKULA- KANTAASUKULA- KANTASUUKULA- KANTASTHULAKULA


44. PAVITHRA PAANISA DHAYASISHTAKULA- DHAYAA SISHTAKULA- DHASISHTAKULA- THAISETTAKULA- THESETLAKULA- THESISHTAKULA- THYSISHTAKULA


45. PAARAASARYASA KAMATHENUKULA- PATAKASEELAKULA- PANCHALAKULA- PANCHALLAKULA- PRANASEELAKULA- PRANUSEELAKULA- PRANA SEELA KULA- PAMPAALLA


46. PINGALASA AYANAKULA


47. PUNDAREEGASA ANUSISHTA- ANUSISHTAKULA- KRANUKULA- THONDIKULA


48. BHOODHI MASHASA DHURVADIKULA- DHULAASISHTAKULA- DHURYADAKULA- DHULASISHTAKULA- DULASIKULA- DHODAKULA- DHODILULA


49. POUNDRAKASA BUMSIMAMSUKULA- BUMSIMANAKULA- BROSISHTAKULA- BROSI- BROLEKAKULA


50. POULASTHYASA GOSEELA- UTHAMAGOSEELA- PALLALAGOOSEELA- PADUGOSEELA- SRIGOSEELA-PUNAGOSEELA- SOORYAKULA- UTHAMASEELA- PUNAGORSEELA- PATTUGOSEELA- PUNAKASEELAKULA BHEEMAGOSEELA- SATHYAGOSEELA- CHANDHIGOSEELA-


51. PRASEENASA VANISISHTAKULA- LENASISHTAKULA- LELISISHTAKULA


52. PRABHADHASA UDHVAHAKULA- PENDLIKULA- RAVISISHTAKULA


53. BRUHATHATHVASA PERUSISHTA- BERISISHTAKULA- BHYRUSISHTAKULA


54. BHODHAYANASA BHUDHIKULA- BHDHANAKULA


55. BHARADHVAJASA BALASISHTA- BALASESHTA- BALISISHTA


56. BHARGGAVASA PRUTHIVISISHTA- PRUTHIVISRESHTA


57. MANTHAPALASA VINNASA- VINNAKULA- VINUKULA- VENNAKULA


58. MAANAVASA MATHYAKULA- MANYUKULA-MARAASAKULA- MAANAACHAKULA


59. MAREECHASA THISHAMASISHTAKULA- THEESHMAKULA- THEESHMASISHTAKULA- THEESHMASHRESHTA


60. MAARKANDEYASA MONUKULA- MORUKA- MORUSA- MORKKALAKULA,MOORKULA


61. MUNIRAJASA PADMASISHTASA- PADMASISHTAKULA- PADMASHRESHTA


62. MAITHREYASA MATHTHIKULA- MATHANAKULA- MATHYASAKULA- MITHUNAKULA- MAITHRIKULAv


63. THOUMYASA CHANDA- CHANDHAKULA- CHANDAKAKULA- CHANKALAKULA


64. MOUNJAYA MUNJEEKULA- MOUNJRISA- MOUNJIKULA


65. MOUTHKALYASA NAABILLA- NAABEELAKULA- NAABEELASAKULA- MUNIKULA- MOOLAKULA


66. YAASKASA VYALAKOOLASA- VELGOLLA- VAELIGOLLA


67. YAGNA VALKYASA ABIMANCHIKULA


68. VADUGASA ANUMARSHANAKULA


69. VARADHANTHUSA MASANTHA- MASANTHA - MASANTHAKULA - MASHANTHAKULA


70. VARUNASA YELASISHTAKULA- VELASISHTAKULA- VELISISHTAKULA- SIRISISHTAKULA


71. VASHISHTASA VASTHI- VASTHISA- VASTHIKULA- VASTHRIKULA


72. VAMADEVASA UPALAKULA- UPAMAKULA- UPANAKULA- UPAMANYAKULA


73. VASUDEVASA BHEEMASISHTA- BHEEMASISHTAKULA- BHEEMASRESHTAKULA


74. VAYAVYAYA MRANGAMAKULA- VRAHASISHTAKULA- VRAKALAMULA- VRANGAMAKULA- VRANGAMULAKULA


75. VALMIKASA SUKALAKULA- SAKALLAKULA- SUCHALAKULA- SUGOLLAKULA


76. VISHVAGSHENASA UBARISISHTA- VIBARISISHTA


77. VISVAMITHRASA VIKRAMASISHTA- VIKRAMASISHTAKULA


78. VISHNUVRUNTHASA PIPPALAKULA- PUPPALAKULA


79. VAIROHITHYASA VASNTHA- VASANTHAKULA


80. VYASASA THANAKU- THANATHAKULA


81. SARABANKASA KRAMASISHTA- KRAMASISHTAKULA- KRAMASHRESHTAKULA


82. SAARGNARAVASA KUNDAKAKULA- KONDAKAKULA


83. SHANDILYASA THUPPALA- THUPPALAKULA


84. SRIVATHSASA SILAKULA- SRIRANGAKULA- SRILAKULA


85. SRIDHARASA SIRISHESHTA- SIRISHESHTAKULA-SRISHISHTA


86. SHUKLASA SRISALAKULA- SRISALLA- SRISALLAKULA


87. CHOWCHEYASA ILAMANCHIKULA- YALAMANCHIKULA- HELAMANCHIKULA


88. CHOWNAKASA KAMALAKULA- DHRUGASISHTA- DHRUGASISHTAKULA- THANATHAKULA- CHAANAKALAKULA- CHOWNAKA


89. SATHYASA ANTHIRAKULA- CHINTHAKULA- CHINTHAMASISHTA CHINTHYAKULA- CHINTHALA


90. SANAKASA SHANAKULA- SANAKULA


91. SANATHKUMARASA DANKARAKULA- MUTHUKULA


92. SANANTHANASA SAMASISHTAKULA


93. SAMVARTHAKASA RENDUKULA- RENTAKULA


94. SUKANCHANASA PUCHAKULA- PUCHAKASEELA- PUNITHA- PUNEETHASA- PUNTHAKULA


95. SUDHEESHANASA DHANTHAKULA- DHYANTHAKULA- DHVANTHAKULA- DHENTHAKULA- DHEVISETLA- DHONTHAKULA


96. SUNDHARASA INA- INAKULA- INAKOLA- VINUKULA


97. SUVARNASA PRODAYASAKULA- PRODAJAKULA- PROUDAAYAJA


98. SUBHRAMHANYASA SANTHANAKULA- SANIKTHAKULA


99. SOWBARNASA PUTHURUKULA- PUTHURUKSAKULA


100. SOWMYASA HASTHIKULA


101. SOWVARNASA CHUSALAKULA- SAKALLAKULA- SOOCHALAKULA- SOOKASALLAKULA- SOOSALAKULA


102. HARIVALGAYASA KAPATA- KURATA- KORATAKULA- GORANTAKULU